Four months in, a quick recap on my sabbatical:
- First of all, it’s awesome! My stress level is way lower. Everyone should take time off at some point of their life. Read this article and see how your heart moves (hat tip Jimmy Kwon)
- Surprisingly, I’ve never been not busy. Unlike the initial expectation/hope, there was zero day when my schedule was completely empty. Some days I even had a packed schedule. You might think sabbatical and imagine something like staring at wall for 8 hours, but life still gets in the way – especially with a family.
- But I can say the quality of how I spend time has been way increased. I do more meaningful work. I pay more attention to people I meet and genuinely care about their life.
- Speaking of quality – one game changer for me has been being able to allocate more time per task. If I want to research about something, I can get into a rabbit hole and spend 2 hours just researching. If I pick up a book from the bookshelf and if the book speaks to me, I can actually sit down and read the book right there for an hour. This is the luxury I didn’t have before. I was always context switching, bouncing around 30 minute zoom calls. That is no way to live. You can’t get into the zone or do any serious deep thinking this way. Not having to jump around 30 minutes back to back calls alone has been a huge relief for me.
- Did a ton of travel – sometimes solo (for both myself and Sara), sometimes taking the kids. Travel is amazing. But you don’t have to fly somewhere to have a great time with family and friends. Just a normal dinnertable conversation with the family can be the greatest thing.
- Speaking of dinner – I can now eat dinner at a reasonable time, which I hardly did before, as I was working with Asia so much. Previously, my “second day” would usually start at around 5pm PST every day, and calls would extend to 7 or 8pm easily.
- I now realize how unsustainable my schedule had been. Past few months, just spending time with family and checking in with (and helping) the folks I care about, plus some travel and basic self-care, almost took up a full time schedule for me. Previously I was cramming all of these activities into my full time work schedule which was already pretty insane as I mentioned. Something had to give, and I suspect many things were spilling into Sara’s plate.
- I’m reading a lot – mostly paper books. How can you not read? Someone’s life is packed into a reasonably compact volume.
- I’m trying to be more disciplined about my time. With 40+ angel investments and 10+ VC fund LP investments, my schedule can be quickly filled out, as if my schedule is a public property, if I’m not super disciplined.
- I’m not antsy about what I will do next. My approach as I get older is, instead of trying to make the universe work for me by a certain deadline, if the universe does its thing first and there’s a place for me, then I might jump in. But of course one can’t do absolutely nothing and expect the universe to work for him. So I’m donig some phase 0 work — just watching how the world works, keeping an eye on some problem spaces, talking to people. But I’m not anxious or antsy at all.
- To physically feel great, all we need is 3 things — sleep, eat, exercise. I’m better now, but there’s still long ways to go. It’s really hard though, probably the hardest thing; try sleeping one hour earlier than normal tonight, or eat salad for dinner. See?